The Sun and Rain is Needed to Make a Rainbow!...

The Sun and Rain is Needed to Make a Rainbow

As time passes and we get older we go through a change from the character. Not all at once but slowly as steadily with time. Parents start to say that you used to do thing like climbing trees and running around in mud when you’re asked to take a bath and all when you were little. We feel like being belittled, and for them, it’s all sweet memories funny topics to talk about that will do no harm. There is no changing them but we can try not to do that when we reach their age. But then again at that age we might not have any other topic to talk to our next generation. So keep updating yourself, so that when you get someone to talk to, you will have something to talk about, something new each time.

If I say that education and learning is a life-long process, that I am sure is not new information to you. But why is it so. There is no limit to knowledge, there I always something new to learn, is that it? If that is why you learn, then you are getting only half way.
Like I said before if you don’t keep learning, if you don’t evolving you will be dwarfed for life, and all you might do with your life is repeat what you said over and over again. Trust me you don’t want to do that, this is when you get irritating to other, they start to keep a distance from you, you feel left out, sometimes that leads to mild or severe physical or mental illnesses. So updating yourself is not something you do just to gain knowledge, it is also somewhat like working out.

Physical and mental exercises like pushups and meditation, using dumb bells and education are workouts that help and aid to physical and mental health and growth but for some reason they are kept separately. But actually they go hand in hand.
Training in one motivates the other and if that is not trained you might not be able go much forward with the latter. Though the training in each other might seem contradictive, it is really not, it only because of your view point that is feels so.

Most people use anger to motivate them to go above what they could achieve earlier and in meditation and thinking, anger is said to blind you and your ability to think. Sometimes you need to run before you can walk that does not mean that you have to keep running all the time. If you look at any martial arts form, you will see that they are not just hits, throws, kicks, locks and blocks. There is also a calm flow that is practiced, though most of the time many just ignore them. The art takes form when you develop the balance between physical and mental workout. The skill of balancing is what which gives birth to art and everything is art.

Most of the time it takes, completely opposite ideas or people to work together to bring about something which really truly beautiful and for these opposites to work together, … yes what you guessed is right, you already know what to do….. Like you see in teamwork you have to use individual strengths and makeup for the others personal weakness. When that goes hand in hand , in perfect balance, the task is completed. You see it even in nature, it takes the presence of the Sun and Rain to make the most beautiful sight that almost everyone long to see, The Rainbow, where all  colours are in balance.

When I Learned to Stand Alone!....

When I Learned to Stand Alone!....

            Mostly every day I used to get up in the morning and the first thing to do was wish everyone a good morning, ask people how they were and wish them a good day. Sometimes this was done at noon too, as mostly I get up late. To those in different time zone of course I wish differently. Other than the routine house work it was mostly the same. As a result there was a lot of free time; since I had quite my old job. Looking at different options was the only thing that I had left to do. That was not something enjoyable especially since I got really easy I got a hold of Indeed App it’s really nice and easy to use.

            What do I do with the rest of the day? That includes feeding my fish and birds, take care of my plants, then take a look around and maybe pot a few plants and sit on the couch thinking as writing was a hobby thinking was an important part the daily routine, then there was a lot scrolling through Facebook, looking at birthday, make happy birthday videos for some special friends maybe. Well that is about it. A little later anyone get fed up, naturally! So did I

I am sure some of you can relate when you have nothing to do all day and you just keep scrolling through social media, watching videos plan to start a channel soon and make it a huge hit. This goes on and on and on.

            This is when my texting starts gain. I was doing nothing, so my friends should be able to reach out to me at least once a day or maybe at least once a week. To be honest I used to test people; I text then and see if they at least text me the next day. They should at least start the conversation once in a while. I wait for that get desperate and text them.
I was lowering my self-esteem; I didn’t know that till I got out of the box. You don’t need people to talk to always. Its not that they can’t or they won’t. Its just that when you love doing something you keep doing it. You Love your job you will be good at it.
You just need to be Ok. Not Ok with yourself;  Not Ok with others doing what they are doing; Not Ok to stand alone; you need to be Ok to do something that you dream about so that you are not talking about one day, you will be on a path that excites for you. A path that makes you feel like doing more of it, more of different things than wait, wish and worry. When you are on this path you will feel a peaceful need to grow, a drive towards perfection, and an understand of what is the meaning of “Being OK” and the difference of the Ok said to friends so that will stay away from some topics.

            I was so obsessed with talking that, I didn’t pay attention to anything. But then getting out of this cycle was by passing through a partial addiction. One day I downloaded Tik-Tok I was quite shy and was sure to be bad at it. So since I had nothing to do, was down mentally and felt like I had nothing to loose.
It is really a really bad concept to keep as a source of confidence but that sometimes helps, But be careful about it.

            I downloaded Tik-Tok and did a video and got a few like, 5 to be exact. I put it as my status and people started texting me that was something that rarely happens. This got me really happy and did more videos. This was a happy feeling to be appreciated, rare as I hardly did anything, and I blamed other for it to. This appreciation was so huge that it was intoxicating I wanted more of it. The habit grew so fast that I was in Tik-Tok 24x7. Then I was unaware of the fact that addiction was starting and has partly taken over. This went on for three or four week, I could hardly keep track of time. I thought this is was it feels like when you are actually doing something with your life, that I was one a great path. That was so terribly wrong.
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I will do videos, people see then and follow me, I follow then, that was all that was happening I was hardly growing as a person I was not getting confident I only did videos when no one was looking. I could hardly ask someone to take a video for me. I was not growing.
I will not say that everyone in Tik-Tok is addicted to it and it is a waste of time there are many out there who productively use Tik-Tok as a productive platform. I just wasn’t like that and was addicted to it.

If you are confused if you are one the right path or not just think from the beginning; What changed? What is the next step? Is life a small circle with you at the centre? Are seeing room for healthy you growing other than just repetition? If you are wondering about the right answer, when you completed answering these questions, you might want to consider taking help. Which I did, and was really fun, getting help does mean you are mad. I just means you are not an egoistic jerk.

            The way I figured out that I had an addiction was quite a something, It won’t feel like much but still, One day I was gardening and I felt the urge to stop it in mid-way and go do a video as the look that I was in was right for doing a certain topic video. That is when I started to feel like I am having an addiction. Unable to resist that urge I washed my hand took up the phone did the video and came out. But by the time I was done it started raining I couldn’t finish my work.
It’s only when it hits where it hurts that you pay attention to anything, in most of the cases. My garden my birds my fish are the world to me, so when I was not able to gardening right, it hurt. Then I understood my father was saying all along I was getting addicted. People outside the box see a better picture. That is outside the box matters, because what you do at the end goes to society, so make sure to keep an eye on the big picture. Don’t let society discourage you from doing something good but make sure that you are doing good and setting a good example.

For example getting help like counseling is something society stares at. Do yourself a favor, and you stop doing it. One person stops doing it and one less audients that result in one less conversation. When something goes out of habit, bad habits disappear.

            I knew I had an addition but that is not the fault of the app or platform so I found a way around it. I zipped the app saving memory whenever I get time and I want to do a video I unzip it I log in and do the video, thus making it less addictive. Every problem, every addiction is a habit that needs handling, that handling is called help nothing else.

            To find a path to follow that gives hope and joy, that helps you feel right or to put it simply “OK”. To find that path is really hard and simple at the same time the hard side gives strength the simple side gives innovation to complicated ideas. That the turn to the right path and you will know what is next what is joy and what is OK.

When I walked out Thoose Doors..! Chapter 5

Chapter 5: The Coffee Shop Small Chat!!.....

               “When you see Café Coffee Day you just can’t really resist can you!?” exclaimed Kevin while stepping out of the car. Nope!” stated Geetha walking ahead. Kevin followed into the shop with a deep breath and nodding his head from left to right, looking down and a cute smile towards the right.

            “You grab a seat I will order an come ok! What would you like?” asked Geetha while look at her phone, “What are you having?” asked Kevin querulously. “I am thinking A Devil’s Own with Vanilla Ice-cream and a Spinach and Corn” said Geetha looking up and thinking. She always had lips curled up to the left when she thinks. “I think I will have a……, Veg. Burger and a Café Latte, Vanilla.” said Kevin taking his phone out. “Where is it where is that app……?” mumbled Geetha. What ? What are you looking for the Café Coffee Day App, I can’t seem to find it. I have been collection beans for a while now. I though I will use my beans to get some discount this time.. plus I will get 7% of the balance amount as beans too. I don’t want to loose that…..” Geetha kept talking. “Stop let me see the phone” Kevin stopped her in between. “Oh! You can refer and earn …! Ok I haven’t installed the app share it with me I will install and use that way we both get beans” said kevin opening the app and handing the phone to Geetha.

            “Ok! I will sent it via What’s App.

‘Download the new CCD App and earn 50 FREE Beans = ₹50 to pay for your beverages. Also, earn upto 7% cashback on every visit! Click link: http://ccdapp.in to download and use referral code ASIS821 to get started. T&C apply’

            You Got it?” Geetha asked. “Yap! Downloading now I will enter the code and buy using this that is when you will get the beans right?” Kevin continued. “Yes that is right I will give you the money you go and pay and place the order I will transfer it via my bank app.”  Said Geetha,

            “Why don’t you use Google Pay or Phone Pe? You have a chance to get cash backs too. Google Pay gives more cash back comparatively though!!...” asked Kevin.  “I don’t have both but!..” said Geetha. “ Ok I will refer that then you can install with that and we both will get cash backs. OK!

‘Join me on Google Pay, a secure app for money transfers, bills and recharges. Enter my code yO8l8 to earn ₹21 back on your first payment! https://g.co/payinvite/yO8l8’

That’s one…..and ……

‘Hey, I love the cashless way to pay with PhonePe. It’s instant, 100% safe & you should try it too!
Transfer money, recharge, pay bills, make payments with any QR code at stores & do more, in seconds.

Click here & install PhonePe - https://phon.pe/ru_asiss4nte’

……and that’s the the other… install and sent I will be at the counter” said Kevin and walked to the counter.

Kevin suddenly turned around and ran out.. as the door close Geetha could hear Kevin’s voice… “Here let me help you with that”

Geetha held down a laugh, smiled slightly with her lips bit down and said to herself “Looks like I will be placing the order after-all ..”

“Good afternoon madam. Your order please?” asked the casher

“Ok I would Like a A Devil’s Own, a Spinach and Corn, Veg. Burger and a Café Latte.” Geetha went on to give the order.

“ Ok Ma’am Devil’s own with Ice cream or without ice cream?”

“with Vanilla Ice-cream”

“and Café Latte which flavor ma’am? Chocolate or vanilla?”

Which one had he said again? One second Kevi….. Oh he is not back yet, mm….Oh yes Vanilla, Its Vanilla!”

“Ok! Ma’am I will repeat your order please confirm…. One Devil’s Own With Ice-Cream one, One Spinach and Corn, One Café Latte and One Veg Burger. Correct ma’am?” Geetha was nodding the whole time as the casher repeated the order and said, “Yes I will be paying by card thank you and here is the QR Code for scanning I would Like to use my beans please!...”

“Ok Sure ma’am! Just a second please.”  Replied the casher

“ Ok” said Geetha and waited.

“Ma’am OTP please”

“It’s ‘xxxxxx’. You got that” Geetha made sure.

“Yes ma’am. Here is your bill and the beans will be added in a while, thank you for coming please wait. We will deliver to your table.” Replied the caher.

“Thank You” said Geetha walking to their table.

As Kevin walked back in he was about to go to the counter with his phone in his hand when he saw his mother waving at him and gesturing him to come and take his seat.

“You gave the order? You could have let me do it you know…” Kevin went on when Geetha interrupted, “ …..you couldn’t help yourself could you. You are just like your father you know you help anyone that you think needs help, weather they ask for it or not… You don’t care What they do for you in return You just do good, I feel like this is one of those I am Proud of You moments, I know your father will be as am I.”

“hmmm….. I … Well I am a bit sad when the people I help the ones that I see every day, ‘friends’ , sometimes don’t even remember my birthday, but even then I love it when I help, I feel like I am making my own space, you know…. I …. I don’t know how to say it but it feels good” Kevin started to explain. “Yap definitely like you father. He says the exact same line” Geetha smiled and said then continued to say, “….but he also adds ‘Doing good not for anything in return and definitely not to be good, but because I am Good!’ and there won’t be the part where I feel a bit sad. Well you are on the track you will get there.” Geetha smiled and said presently.

“Ok enough of that tell the story of the tournament you and dad met and fell in love and all that. Seriously you have kept enough suspense !!....” exploded Kevin. Easy there kido you need a lot of patients to get to the end of this tale….. hhehehe” teased Geetha, “Hrrrrwww” grunted Kevin. Geetha had her Eye brows Up and looked sharply at Kevin. Kevin took a deep breath and cooled down. “Mmm!.. That was fast good you have improved You will need it while fixing your room, the furniture part!”

“Hmm ok!” said Kevin. “This is how we met” Said Geetha presently. “What? How in the…?” Kevin said surprised. “I saw him for the first time when he was facing my friend in the ring but we met for the first time and the first thing he did was teach me patients”

“ I guess the anger part I got that from you…….” said Kevin smiling.

“Excuse Me! Your order” said the waiter with their order in his hand.

"I will go wash my hands and come ok? You go after that and don’t you dare star before that.” Ordered Kevin…

“Sure Boss. I’m waiting…..” said Geetha winking…. And both of them smiled

What should I do next!....?

What should I do next!....?

            It was the last day of the Himalayan trekking trip, ‘The Winter Trek’ and Iven was standing looking at The Sun coming up above the snowcapped mountains. “Hai!.. What happen you alright up there?” shouted Derik the camp guide. “Its cool I was just thinking…..You know plans and stuff…..”

            “That is a good spot to think about …..you know ‘stuff’ and all”, said Brian, Bindly followed up with a laugh. “hehe, aha”. They came up and stood next to Iven, they did waste time they started talking immediately, “Sit…” said Bindly, “Sure sis” followed Brian. Iven also sat down with a sigh.

“You alright? You been like, a bit off throughout the trip you do hang out good when people are looking but you seem disturbed what’s up?” asked Brian, “Oh! Come on tell us what you where trying to get away from then you decided to come for this trip?” Bindly bolted out.

            “ You two are special you know , You just can’t help it can you you always want to be there for someone how looks a bit sad, That could get you into trouble you know, I should know, I have got it  lot” Iven started in a mature and bold tone. “Did that stop you?” Brain asked, looking out into the open. “If it had I would have decided to come on this trip , So it’s a No, A Big Fat NO!” explained Iven.

            “Ok we get it, you are at the verge of depression and you are forcing out of it each time you feel like almost slipping. Tell us what happen, we want to help or at least try.” Said the simply enthusiastic Bindly.

“Each time I go of guard or be myself the goofy self I loose a friend, Each time I help by extension of a friend, without that particular friend knowing…….”; “what do you mean by, ‘by extension of a friend’, didn’t get it” Ivan’s narration was interrupted by Brian’s. “I meant a friends brother or a friend’s friend or something like that!” Iven explained with a slight taste of bitterness, for interrupting his narration.

“So as ‘I’ as in you were saying,…..” Bindly help restart Iven and he continued with a small smile. “ Well each time I tried to help or when I tried to bond I kept loosing them. I mean am I supposed to be on guard always, Should I become someone else to keep friendships”

“Hai this is ….. Ok why do you expect every single person too be your friend? You don’t need that many just a few good ones” said Bindly. “Well those few good ones, those are the ones I loose each time I be myself!.” Said Iven depressed and with a sagging sholder.

“Where did this happen, I mean the goofing around…..?” asked Brian querulously

“Coffee Shop, in a mall”

“ You complete idiot!” shouted Brian. “Calm Down brother you might start an avalanche.” said Bindly and continued to Iven, “What were you thinking, in that situation of-course her would get angry. Every will judge her, you can’t really blame her for reacting”

“I don’t blame her for anything. Fine I get it, I shouldn’t have been like that there. But she told me that this is a public place and I shouldn’t be goofy… and I changed then itself, but she just does accept that.”

“But wait how do you know it’s a her?” asked Iven.

“Oh please, really that is the most obvious thing ever, this reaction to this situation and you taking it so hard; that will not happen if it is not to the opposite sex” explained Brian.

“I have to be on guard I have to keep myself this perfect like character, People are leaving quite fast, Everyone I wanted to share my any achievements with, any special occasions with, all are leaving. Should I be on guard always, I only goof with a few people, they can tell me I will with draw and I can change why are they leaving? I just don’t want them to leave!”

Bindly smiled, “ There there It’s Ok! I know you wish you had someone ok with everything you do how would help you and tolerate you and scold you and when you change they will be there and if you don’t’ change they will keep scolding that would be nice wouldn’t it”

“Ya…” Iven murmured.

“What do you do when you ‘goof’?” asked Brian

“I do this (putting his around Brian); sometimes this (patting on Brindly’s shoulder); may this (gently tapping on Brian’s nose); and maybe this to (knocking on Bindly’s head). Ya things like that. Basically I don’t care if you are a boy or a girl I do some of these. Plus I won’t care if you are a boy or a girl I will really punch you in your face if you tic me of….”

“You're gona get punched back!” stated Bindly. “Ya that is for sure!.....” Brian added.

“I expect that, I want to get hit back ……otherwise it is bullying, I am bonding..!” Iven was using his high pitched voice that he uses when he states the obvious.

“Hmmm……” sighed Brian, “Indeed….” said Bindly……

{………………………….Comment your advice to Iven……………………………….}

New Year’s Resolution

New Year’s Resolution

            At the dawn of mostly every year we make promises to each other or to ourselves. “I will do that….”; “I will stop doing this….”; “We will do that……”; “We will stop criticizing….”; “I will Stop eating junk food….” so on and so forth. We put up bench marks that we have to meet on a daily basis so that results will come within a month or two. But most of the time these decisions put a weight on our shoulders all of a sudden that it is too much to beer. 

            Let’s think of it this way, Imagine if you are going to the gym. You don’t start on all the high end equipment on the first day itself you warm up 1^st then you start small with lower weight and smaller numbers in sets. Then we slowly move up the weights and numbers.

Let’s take some resolutions shall we; 1) I will stop eating junk food and follow a vegetarian diet rich in fiber and nutrients. 2) I will run 3km daily 3) I will master coding within the next two months 4) I will build up my body

            If I take all these resolution, probably I will try all of them at once, many after the first two days I will drop one. Then dial down the rest after four or five days then drop them all at once after one and a half weeks or so. Completely forget about them after a month.

            I don’t believe that the idea of a resolution was ever introduced to make hard and fast decisions to get results fast, I think they were kick starters, usually people hesitate to take the 1^st step, the words new year’s resolution together with friends or family or in a quality ‘Me Time, might help in kick starting something new.

            I see people loosing hope in resolutions because they make resolutions that are actually target to hit. These targets like body building, health, growth in profession, learning a skill set, all that are things that take time to get in hand and see result. But we expect results within the fort night.
Try this out for instance instead of choosing a target choose how to reach there. Instead of saying you will build your body up or will do this many hours of gym work out, say something like, “……I will work out more….”. Instead of saying I will master this skill within this time, go for, “I will learn a little more every day”

            Resolutions are motivations, when you hear a motivational speech and you run toward your goal, you will get exhausted within a quarter mile maybe, Try walking takes time that is true, but it will get you to you goal with energy to spare.

Let’s take those resolutions that I took earlier maybe in a better way…You might be able to find even better ones you go with,

Here is my way; I will add healthy meals also to my diet; I start with slight exercising, regularly; I will learn a little more every day.

            Resolution are not a necessity for life to improve they do help, if you need a kick start. You can take decisions at any time of the year and improve on your life. New Year’s Eve is just common factor among many people. If all at once is too much spread it out throughout the year. That way you can also get a sustained growth throughout the year. What you decide is entirely up to you.

Weather you take them all at once or weather you take one at a time, Hope you take a step forward in life

Comment your new year’s resolution and how you will take them. Lets Grow together